Rest in peace, Dad.

(Photo: David A. Cano)

Yesterday my dad went into ER because he had trouble breathing. The tumor on his lung had grown so big it was blocking his blood flow. It was determined that the cancer pills were not working. He asked about other alternatives even though we had been told there weren’t any. He was not ready to give up. They kept him overnight for observation. While we were waiting for the room, he joked “Come on, let’s get out of here and go home!”

Finally, they secured a room – a brand new remodeled huge swanky hotel-suite looking thing. He loved the huge bed, he said it was very comfy. He was in so much pain, he deserved every ounce of comfort he could get. We helped him get situated and then kissed him goodnight and left. I prayed for him to please be released in the morning so he could go home.

He passed away peacefully in his sleep early this morning. My heart is broken, as is my family’s but we are happy that he is not suffering anymore. He suffered a LOT these past few months but did his best to push on. He left this life with so much dignity, he always stood tall and looked to see the best in people. He loved to make people laugh. He loved to create things with his hands. He loved a hardcore math problem. He loved make red chili sauce from scratch. He loved the Cardinals football team!

Most of all, he loved to be with his family.

I’m so proud to be his daughter.

From the bottom of my heart, thank you to everyone for your well wishes, they meant so much.

Love & light,

92 Responses

  1. My heart goes out to you. Life is not the same without your father. It’s been over 20 years since my father passed. Lung issues too. Asbestos. My prayers are with you and your family. He really must have been a fabulous father and oh so very proud of you.

  2. My heart goes out to you Kathy and my love to you and your family.
    I lost my Dad July 12 2006 and my Mom March 4,2009 and it hurts, but it does feel good knowing that they are no longer in pain and hopefully crafting away where they are now.
    Love to you,

  3. Kathy I am sorry to hear about your dad. I recently lost my mother n law and it was very hard. But it does get a little easier with time. My prayers are with you and your family. Just remember your daddy will always be there in spirit and you know when he will be around you.

    Tu Amiga,

  4. I’m so sorry for your loss. But yes, he is HOME.

    Have you ever read the poem, The Ship? It’s a little corny, but I find it so comforting.

    I am standing on the seashore. A ship at my side spreads her white sails to the morning breeze and starts for the blue ocean.
    She is an object of beauty and strength, and I stand and watch her until at length she is only a speck of white cloud just where the sea and sky meet and mingle with each other. Then someone at my side exclaims, “There, she’s gone!”
    Gone where? Gone from my sight, that is all. She is just as large in hull and mast and spar as she was when she left my side, and just as able to bear her load of living freight to the place of her destination. Her diminished size is in me, not in her.
    And just at the moment when someone at my side says, “She’s gone,” there are other eyes watching for her coming and other voices ready to take up the glad shout, “There, she comes!”
    And that is dying.

  5. Sigh. So sorry to hear about your loss. I’ll keep your father and your family in my prayers. May he reast in peace, at home.

  6. Dearest Kathy,
    I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your dad. He sounds like an amazing man. This is not surprising considering the beautiful glittering queen he raised as a daughter. Love and blessings to you and your family.

  7. So so sorry Kathy. 🙁 I’m dealing with a similar situation and I am so glad to know you have family around to support you.

    Lots of cyber-hugs sprinkled with twenty pounds of glitter are coming to you!!

  8. So sorry, Kathy, to hear this. My Pop went in 1988, lung cancer. He is with me always now. Love to you and your wonderful family! Thank you for sharing him with us!

  9. Prayers for peace to be with you and your family at this time. Your dad’s b-day is the day before my dad’s b-day. Sounds like a great man!

  10. My dad went the same way. He had to go to the hospital a couple days, then passed away early in the morning after we had all spent the day before with him.

    I know it’s hard, but stay strong and be proud and count your blessings that you ever had such a wonderful father!

  11. Kathy,

    You and your family are in my prayers. I loved hearing stories about your father. What a beautiful man. How blessed he was to have all of you in his life.


  12. Kathy – I lost my father back in 2005 after a very long and painful illness (he had lung disease as well).

    It is still one of the most profoundly sad events of my life. My heart goes out to you and your family.

    I wish you sunshine, and sparkles, and joy and happy memories during this sad, troubled time.

    May your dad enjoy crafting really awesome signs to help people get around his new place! (I imagine where he is, the paint never runs, the glitter stays in one place, and the glue dries quickly!)

  13. I’m so sorry for your loss. You provide us with such crafty inspiration, and there is so much love and creativity in your work and your life. Stay strong. Our thoughts are with you and your family.


  14. Kathy,
    I’m so sorry. He sounds like a great guy who passed many of his wonderful qualities onto you. What a blessing.

  15. I’m so sorry for your loss. He sounds like an awesome dad and someone you truly loved & respect & always looked up to. My prayers are with you.

  16. I’m so sorry Kathy. I lost my mom to colon cancer after fighting it for 6 years.

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. {{Abrazos}}

  17. My thoughts are with you! I lost my mom this same day two years ago.
    We will light candles in memory of our loss and know they are in are hearts always~
    Sending love and prayers your way.

  18. I lost my father to emphysema 2 years ago after a 10 year battle.

    Yes, they are now free from pain and renewed and restored.

    Prayers and love to you and your family as you continue this journey without him. Hold the good memories in your heart.

  19. I’m so sorry for your loss. I, too, lost my father (February 2004) and the loss stays with you for a long time. But I often feel his spirit and hear his words of wisdom and feel his guidance. Find peace with your wonderul memories in your heart…..

  20. So very sorry to read about your father. The photo you posted shows a warm, loving man with a twinkle in his eye. It would have been a pleasure to know him. Losing a loved one is devastating but take some comfort in knowing you had something some of us didn’t and never will. A dad. How blessed you are. Love to you and your family.

  21. I am so very sorry for your loss but I am glad your dad is no longer suffering.

    Sending lots of love & good thoughts your way!

  22. I am so sorry to hear about your loss. As a father-less daughter myself, I know that losing dad is hard but I conjure up his strength in my hard times. Blessings on you and your family.

  23. You have my sincere, heartfelt condolences. He looks and sounds like a wonderful man.


  24. I just read what you wrote on Twitter and came right over to your blog to let you know how sorry I am. I know how you feel! I lost my dad 10 yrs ago. I can tell you that you will probably feel like you will never be happy again (that’s how I felt) but you will. Time really does heal.

    God Bless You and Keep You In His Peace!


  25. Kathy,

    I’m so sorry to read about your father’s passing. It sounds like he was a proud man until the very end. I love your little memorial post about him. He sounds like the kind of person I would have liked.

    I read your tweets about this yesterday. Hang in there.


  26. I am so sorry for your loss. In sharing/writing your blog, I felt that I “knew” him. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

  27. Kathy and Family, all the wonderful memories you have of your Father will give you strength. May God comfort your sorrow.

  28. Ah Kathy,
    I am so sorry to hear about your father. I was thinking about him last night after your tweets yesterday and hoping that he would make it through the night but I guess it was not to be. He is in a better place now and free from pain. My dad died from prostate cancer a year and a half ago so I know how much sadness you and your family are experiencing now but try to focus, as you did above, on the wonderful memories you have of him and let those memories comfort you.

    SusanSW (beadmomsw)

  29. Well now it is clear to us where all of your wonderful talent comes from. May peace fill you and your families souls at this time. When you meet again it will be a great reunion. Until then he will be watching over you.
    All my love and prayers,

  30. It’s always hard to find the right words…so all I can say is that I’m just so sad for you and your family.
    I’m also a firm believer in signs, so keep an eye out for those pennies from heaven..

  31. I AM SO VERY SORRY! I am crying for you and my heart hurts for you and your family. It was obvious every time you wrote of your dad that you loved him totally and respected him completely. What a loving and caring daughter you have been–he was lucky to have you and your love. I bet he was proud of you, too!
    love to you and your sweet family,

  32. Kathy, I am so very sorry to hear about your Dad! I know exactly what it feels like as I lost my Dad a little over six years ago. It sounds like you had a great Dad and he was blessed with a terrific daughter! I’m sure he’ll be with you always. My thoughts are with you and your family during this sad and difficult time.

  33. You have my most sincere condolences – I am so sorry for your loss. From the stories you’ve told of him – I think he was a wonderful man.

  34. my deepest sympathies go out to you and your family. I’m sure he’s in a better place, maybe even with some glitter 🙂 as we say in Maltese, “l-ghomor” (it’s a mixture of condolences and wishing you a healthy, long life).

  35. I’m so sorry, (((((Kathy))))). (I’m crying and I never even met him LOL) It’s so fortunate that his creativity and warm-heartedness live on in you and your children.

  36. Thank you for sharing with your loyal crafters. You Dad is truly at peace. He was very luck to have such a loyal family who loves and laughs.

  37. My heart goes out to you & your family on your great loss. Thank you for sharing the beautiful picture of your Dad with us – he looks like the most wonderful Dad anyone could ask for. Nothing can replace his loss, but knowing that his pain is ended can give you a small bit of comfort. Know that you are in my heart & in my prayers. ~~Sue

  38. Kathy, I am so sorry for yourlost, my heart goes out to you.
    I believe he now at home with our almighty father sitting by his side looking down and seeing his family feeling very proud of all of you.
    I will light a candle for your father
    Con todo mi cariño.
    Cyn Lee

  39. Dear Kathy,

    I’ve followed your blog for a long time now, and I rarely comment. But I’ve always been very touched by your connectedness to your family and I was very sad to see this news. I’m keeping you and yours in my prayers and I’m grateful that you have so many good and happy memories of this wonderful man.

  40. Oh Kathy, I am so sorry to hear of this. Your father is such an inspiration to others. My prayers go out to you and your father.
    Teresa aka Tess

  41. Kathy, I am so sorry to hear about your father. Every time you talked about your father you could feel the love. May you always feel the comfort of his presence in your heart. My prayers are with you and all your family.

  42. Dear Kathy,

    My thoughts are with you too. I hope that your family is able to mend your hearts quickly and push on. He lives on within all of you.


  43. Dear chica, the loss is huge but you have a good understanding of the release he has had. Having lost my father under similar circumstances, I can tell you with confidence, he will be at your shoulder, 24/7. Embrace it. And know the pain will fade, but never go away. My heart goes out to you and your family.

  44. Kathy, I’ve been in west Texas and am so sorry to read this. You have so many friends who care about you.

    Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers.

    Tenderly may time heal your sorrow,
    Gently may friends ease your pain,
    Softly may peace replace heartache,
    And may warmest memories remain.

    Sending gentle hugs,

  45. Happened upon your blog. So sorry to hear about your loss. My father passed away 5 years ago tomorrow from lung cancer. I still miss him. My prayers to you and your family.

  46. I found your blog today in a search. I see you are flooded with comments but I wanted to let you know about me new blog that you might be able to connect to. I lost my father May 31st of this year and have begun writing about my experience. I am using is as a tool to deal with my grief and I hope that maybe it will help someone like you who is dealing with a recent loss. I am so sorry for your loss.

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